They say the brain rewires itself to accommodate for losing one or more senses. A blind person develops great hearing, a deaf person great sight. Neither deaf nor blind, I have some loss of both. The result: a finely tuned sense of smell interlaced with memories and emotions.
The aroma of cut grass transports me to summer. Cigarette smoke in the bathroom reminds me of my abusive grandfather. Love’s Baby Soft powder scent embodies the year 1987. The pages of a book smell of escape.
My grandmother’s perfume exudes love.
Grandma Darleen shone like a beacon in my often dark childhood. She lived in California and I in Washington, and I could count on at least one visit every year. Like a tornado, she’d swoop into my life and show me the possible: Broadway plays, Universal Studios, Monterey Bay, a cabin in Strawberry, California—these were just a few of the many things I would not have experienced otherwise.
She died suddenly in 2000, alone.
I—the only grown-up in the family capable of handling her affairs—flew to San Jose, alone. I identified her body at the morgue. I signed the paperwork and made the arrangements. I sorted through her belongings. And from those meager possessions, I inherited a most precious treasure—a bottle of her signature perfume.
She’d purchased her Caesars Woman perfume at Caesars Palace in Las Vegas, Nevada. A mix of citrus, floral, and spice, the elegant bottle came in an opulent box covered with images of Roman marble in rich hues of orange and brown. Metallic gold foil embossing formed the ancient Roman-style letters, giving it a luxurious appearance.
When I have a rough day and doubts creep in, I take the bottle from the drawer, remove the lid, close my eyes, and inhale. In an instant, I am sitting on her lap again, blanketed in the soft comfort of her fleshy arms and ample bosom. Her deep voice vibrates in the ear I have pressed to her chest.
I breathe her into me and I remember.
I remember she fed my love of reading by providing an endless supply of books, giving me an escape into worlds better than my own. I read and re-read every Laura Ingalls Wilder, Nancy Drew, Black Beauty, and Mark Twain book she sent.
When I have a rough day and doubts creep in, I take the bottle from the drawer, remove the lid, close my eyes, and inhale. In an instant, I am sitting on her lap again, blanketed in the soft comfort of her fleshy arms and ample bosom. Her deep voice vibrates in the ear I have pressed to her chest.
I remember how she loved to play Scrabble, cribbage, rummy, and pinochle. I remember her patience in teaching me. I remember how we shared a love of figure skating and the Olympic Games. I remember her pride when I graduated from college—the first in the family.
I remember her love.
Tears always come with the happy memories and bring the release I need. I feel her presence encouraging me to carry on. And when the doubts pass, I carefully stash the bottle of love in the back of the drawer until I need her again.
Hi Michele, lovely detail and gorgeous tribute to a special bond and smell that continues to envelop you with safety. 🌹
Oh this is such beautiful writing, Michele. I love the focus on the sensory and how you can be instantly transported just by smells. There is a specific candle smell that always takes me back to a local shop in a town where I had such fond memories, it’s a certain mixture of spices & sweetness that always makes me happy.